Category: SANJEEV KOTNALA

  • Can the Spirit of Advertising Help Self-regulation?

     

     

    By Sanjeev Kotnala

     

    Sanjeev KotnalaMaybe it will be easy for the advertising and marketing industry to understand. With so much following for cricket and huge interest in it, with half the population being experts in the field, it should make sense. After all, the industry spends huge sums of money on sports and IPL. The cricketers are the main set of celebrity models that the industry uses and people associate with.

    So, in the third Ashes Test 2023, Bairstow (England) was stumped by Alex Carey (Australia) as he wandered out of his crease at the end of a Cameron Green over. The third umpire upheld Australia’s appeal as the ball was yet ‘not dead’. Stuart Broad hit out at Australia for not withdrawing their appeal – the basis of request- Spirit of the game.

    Now as per the rules of the game, Jonny Bairstow was out. However, Australia could have withdrawn the appeal and called him back in the spirit of the game. They did not. And that’s as simple as that.

    The game is played by the rule and should be played by the rule, not the norms and spirit of the game. And for that, the rules should be simple, straight, not suspectable to differences or misinterpretation and applied equally to all.

    What is true for the game is true for other professions, including advertising and marketing, where there are clear rules in the case of tobacco. Clear expectations and guidelines in case of Insurance, mutual funds, and investments. Simple rules for celebrity endorsement. Rules for liquor advertising and betting and much more. However, some brands ensure that they do everything legally required by them. Morality and ethics are not weighed in. The spirit of advertising and marketing is not evoked as the Advertising Standards Council of India (ASCI) gives guidelines and expectations under self-rule. Something that does not have the bite of legally ensuring compliance.

     

    Do We Need a Law For Everything?

    The question is: should there be a law for everything. Can’t the professional incharge and executing such work take a call? Specific categories need to make moral and ethical calls even after meeting the legality of communication. Unfortunately, it’s a tricky business out there. They clearly are in no mood not to use the escape routes, including the classic surrogate advertising, misinformation, small point disclaimers, and such acts.

    Maybe being professional, the industry demands the practitioner remain brand and market objectives focussed and work within the legal framework. Being alive to the spirit of the work and the brand is not necessarily the industry’s expectations. They will, as expected, take a calculated judgement and withdraw (if they do) an advertisement only after someone complains, ASCI acts or the audience troll them for it.

    Like the Spirit of the Game in Cricket, values, expectations and a code of ethics are defined by the self-regulating advertising industry advertising that can be the difference and an example. But then, no one wants to be setting benchmarks. Everyone is busy and happy creating impact communication within the legal framework.

    And there is nothing wrong with it. Because following the rules is really the spirit of the industry.

     

    Net-net

    If I was to take the preamble of the spirit of Cricket and replace that with advertising, it would/ could read like this. It would make sense but hardly be practical as it will continue to mean different things to different people.

    Advertising, marketing and communication owe much of its appeal, enjoyment and impact to the fact that they should be created, crafted and exposed not only according to the Laws but also within the Spirit of communication. The major responsibility for ensuring fair play rests with the marketing head, brand custodians and their advertising agencies but extends to all players in the ecosystem, creative creators, media, trainers, institutes and the audience that watches them.  

    Self-regulation is central to the Spirit of communication.

    Play hard, play fair with the competition, and respect the audience’s sensitivities.

    Accept the ASCI decision and don’t repeat the mistake.

    Create a positive atmosphere through your conduct, and encourage others to do likewise.

    Show self-discipline, self-regulate, raise voices and object to anything harmful or not in sync even when things go against you.

    Congratulate the opposition on their successes, and enjoy those of your team.

    Communication, Advertising and marketing is an exciting field that encourages leadership, friendship, networking, insight mining and teamwork, which brings together people and help them make decisions when a creative is curated, crafted and created within the Spirit of self-regulation, societal moral, and industry ethics.

     

  • Sanjeev Kotnala: Painting the heart pink!

    By Sanjeev Kotnala

     

    Sanjeev KotnalaBarbara Millicent Roberts (lovingly called Barbie), daughter of George and Margaret Roberts from Willows, Wisconsin, recently hit a theatre near you. Despite a strong t franchise and a legendary product, BARBIE, the movie ran an all-out marketing campaign. Why not? At The End- It Is All About- ”Come on Barbie- let’s let’s go party”. The excitement is high, and the movie on day one did more than decent business during the weekend, inching closer to the 20Cr mark.

    Barbie like Lego toys, and then the play-station has been a divider than a unifier. There were two kinds of kids, Barbie owners and non-owners. And after the movie, you will have a perfect 2X2 matrix of Barbie owners and movie watchers. And everyone would want to be at Owned a Barbie – watched the movie quadrant.

     

    Dolls And Toys Have Huge Emotional Links.

    To fill the void from childhood, where soft toys were a luxury we could never indulge in. Where the friends played with us but never allowed us to play with the teddy bear she had. I bought a giant teddy bear from my first salary. So, I can understand the huge emotional pull the movie will have on Barbie owners and non-owners. Many of these toys are kept and treasured like memories.

     

    Barbie International Success. 

    There are more than 1 billion Barbie dolls sold since 1959, and she is still going strong, with more than 100 Barbie sold per minute and an estimated revenue of $2 billion in 2022.

    Barbie till now has more than 250 inspirational careers, meaning there are many more Barbies to own. You can get $25,000 plus for an original 1959 Barbie in pristine condition.

    Children find a place for their toys and dolls on the show shelf or child memory kits when they grow up. The girl never grows her Barbie. And, there is a Barbie in every girl’sgirl’s world – the fantastic world they live in and run wild with imagination. Barbie is, after all, an entirely fluid idea. She plays on the reflective dreams of young girls and is what they want her to be. 

     

    Barbie Ecosystem &  Digital.

    The Barbie app boasts over 70 million active users, with 19 million plus followers across social media platforms. I see it as an underselling of the legend on screen. It has evolved and kept pace with time. Be it the dress sense, ethnicity options, boyfriends, cultural ethos, continuous marketing, or accessories. Thus creating ab hugely successful ecosystem.

     

    Barbie Proactive Marketing.

    The 29 cm legend has remained a girl child favourite globally. The US figures claim that 90% of girls own at least one Barbie and that the average girl owns 10 Barbie dolls.

    There is a Barbie world out there- stories like her breakup in 2004 and getting back with Ken in 2011 keep the imagination high.

    The screen outing of Barbie should be much stronger than the first outing of Batman, Superman, Superwoman etc., in the overall pull, interest and lifetime revenue or impact on Barbie as a franchise.

    The movie Barbie will be a family outing with a girl child. It will further boost the Barbie world and expand the universe of Barbie kids while retaining and igniting the nostalgia in the ”I once had a Barbie’Barbie’ audience. The old generation, fully dripping in childhood memories and remembering the time with Barbie, will be the brand ambassador inviting the new generation into the foldI will not be surprised if many moms play Barbie-Barbie with their daughters in the next few weekends.

     

    Barbie & India

    Barbie has not seen the same success in India. Though it remains aspirational and a large franchise. There has always been a question of Indian relatability to Barbie and acceptance of her sexuality and beauty parameters, including body measurements.

    It is a futile debate. For girls, she is a prime princess of the dolls she has in her playgroup. The body measurement is not something the kid looks atEven the plastic hollow air-filled INR 7 dolls in a rural market have the same makeup. So where is the problem?

    The brand Barbie will get more mileage and traction post the movie launch and later with reruns over channels.

     

    Barbie Is Not Without Controversies.

    On the other hand Barbie in recent times, has had controversies due to some negative body image, perceived sexism, upholding gender stereotypes, pushing impossible beauty parameters and lack of Barbie diversity- however, it has not really impacted her popularity. On top of it, with ever-new introductions and expansion of the ecosystem, the brand further fuels the insatiable hunger of wanting a fresh Barbie.

     

    Brands And Barbie Ecosystem.

    The brands participating in the movie promotion leverage the Barbie ecosystem, and the captive audience are riding a marketing juggernaut. All these linkages were years in the making in a well-controlled campaign. Brands, including Crocs, Boohoo, Kitsch, Gap, Funboy, Primark and Mattel, have marketing product associations with limited editions and other merchandise from the world of dress, fashion trends, new clothing, barbie parties, perfume, shoes, brushes, eatables and more.

    The brand has been fairly active in outdoor activation and social media. The selfie filter was a huge hit, and the outdoor campaign was a great curiosity generator. There were social media filters, UGC and metaverse associations, to list a few.

     

    It is more than just painting the town in Barbie colours. It is like colouring the hearts of the older generation, which proudly claimed ”I lived in a Barbie world” to the new audience who want to live the Barbie world in Barbie colours.

     

    More Than The Movie.

    It is futile to see marketing efforts as just movie marketing. If there was a word a concept, it is one of the largest surrogate advertising for Barbie for being future-ready and expanding the Barbie lover segment in an era where kids are turning more to screens than playing with toys.

    The movie Barbie got a PG13 certificate abroad. It is nice for the brand in countries with a large following. It is UA certified in India and will work for the movie. The kid’skid’s pressure may not be high, but the adult would support the outing.

     

    Net-net

    Barbie, the movie marketing looks to have gone overboard if one looks at it as simple movie marketing. Then the task was simple, fill the theatre for the first 4 days and let the experience market the movie. There was no option to undersell and risk it overall.

    If the movie and the brand manage the expectation and experience gap well, it will be great; otherwise, we may see the movie fail in no time. 

    I feared the marketing campaign may have extended the expectations, and the experience may not live up to it, hurting the movie, if not the franchise. Like the non-pet owners in a pet café, you will find many non-barbie owners at the shows- it is Barbie, after all. She had parted during the weekend on the large screen in Indian cinemas.

     

  • Customising birthday greetings, the Cadbury way

     

     

     

    By Sanjeev Kotnala

     

    Sanjeev KotnalaI finished playing around with the lyrics and genre of the birthday song for a friend at https://cadburymybirthdaysong.com and am more than happy with the result. I am not surprised at this new initiative by Cadbury Celebrations with its partners Ogilvy and Wavemaker to get Artificial Intelligence (AI) to work for the masses and create a personalised ‘Happy Birthday’ song. They have done this in the past. The personalised greeting, the Diwali selling and more.

     

    In effect, the last few initiatives are as different as one Bond movie from another. There is a pattern, and strategic thinking helps keep the result in sight.

    It must be effortless, effective, and efficient for the user.

    It must use technology that is easily affordable, accessible, and available.

    It must be easy. Maybe just the fingertips and mobile should do the magic.

    It must awe the audience and create an appreciable debate.

    It should be something the audience would really desire, and that would delimit their constraints in more ways than one.

    #MyBirthdaySong is just such a campaign.

    Now no longer, the birthday song will be the same. Anyone can create a customised birthday song. Making the recipient feel more wanted, adored and special. Think if the person is not aware of this tool created by Cadbury, how impressed the person would be. As one would not understand and imagine the labour, time and effort that would go into creating anything remotely similar without AI.

     

    The persons who made and gifted it to the birthday person feels positive about themselves. See themselves as creative and contributing. A memory of a different type. If not to the party, this person surely carries a Cadbury Celebration pack in mind. The brand association and engagement through such a device are ideal and long-term. Maybe ere performance marketing meets the brand-building efforts.

     

    The song is unique as it allows you to harness the power of AI and generate lyrics, choose the music style, and bingo have a unique birthday song served in no time.

     

    I must ask you to go to https://cadburymybirthdaysong.com and playfully try the same. Don’t worry if the birthday is not near or already gone. Its downloadable output that one can proudly send, display, or sing along at the event making that occasion memorable as it should be. I usually do not refer to the contributing parties, but this one must get the credits. After the details have been placed, lyrics are created by Uberduck’s Generative AI engine and sung by GanAI custom-created vocal models – mixed and mastered with Uberduck’s AI-generated music that makes the song unique.

     

     

    In the past, Cadbury has been at the forefront of pathbreaking work. The ‘SRK Support Local retailer’ sale, ‘Not just a Cadbury ad’  and the ‘Support the Hawker nearby’  were on similar lines, based on scalability and ease of use of technology.

     

     

     

    Net-Net

    Brands have a tremendous opportunity to access and leverage new-age technology to take that additional steps to connect and work with the audience. Brand-building can happen with performance marketing. I must also remind you to watch the HP ad ‘Thodi Si Jagh bana lo’ – which also showed how to easily use technology with a human face for a technology company.

     

     

  • Sanjeev Kotnala: Bawaal raises some simple brand questions

    By Sanjeev Kotnala

     

    Sanjeev KotnalaThis is a Bawaal note. Just like the movie, well-meaning but ends up being a chaotic commotion of interpretations and questions while raising many questionable answers in mind. It is as good on intent as much as the director of Bawaal aspired the movie currently streaming on Amazon Prime to be, but it meanders and seems contrived to push a point of view. I like such movies where the director is concerned more about the movie and the message than the final output and liking of the audience. It is a farfetched mess which wants but rarely harnesses your complete attention. However, I would like everyone and especially couples, to see the movie. Maybe it would make sense for the client-agency teams to see it together and use it as a platform to raise a few questions that could be debated till the cows come home or the bars close.

     

    It’s a complete Bawaal

    This is director Nitesh Tiwari’s way of making Bawaal in the audience’s mind. And don’t be guided by his performance as a Dangal or Chiller Party director.

    There is a failing marriage based on false premises. The image-conscious groom is a history teacher wanting to further control and strengthen his image in society. A far-fetched diversion of the hero to take a tour to repair his folly and again to further structure his image. And then, completely out of the blue, juxtaposition of World War II horrors in a movie that the viewer started watching as a romantic story with a predictable narrative.

    The film storyline is unexpected and too far-fetched and maybe always remains a suspension of episodes and never become a smooth solution you could call a story.

     

    Some spoiler alert: half-baked Bawaal story ahead.

    It is different that the movie has Varun Kapoor, Ajay Dixit (Ajju Bhaiya) as the image-conscious history teacher in Lucknow and Janavi Kapoor as Nisha, the intelligent and beautiful girl who has a history of epileptic fits delivering one of their best performances. Manoj Pahwa and Anjuman Saxena as Ajju’s parents, Mukesh Tiwari as the local MLA and Prateek Pachori as the best friend, repowers the frames they are in.

    Nisha tells Ajju Bhaiya about her problem, but he still marries her as it would further add to his image. However, Nisha has an epileptic fit during the marriage. Now Ajju Bhaiya sees her differently. A liability that could affect his image. So the marriage is in shambles. He won’t even take her anywhere because he is haunted by the question, ‘What if she has a fit’. People may object and point out that Ajju’s reaction to Nisha’s epileptic fit is shameless and too insensitive; they must realise that real life and the truth are reflected in reel life, and the movie cannot be creatively challenged for being socially correct.

    An episode in school leads Ajju Bhaiya on a trip to Europe centred around the sites of World War II – which is what he was teaching to his class! That’s the twist.

    I have no grudge against the story not exploring the horrors of the war. It was not meant to do so. Many may hate how the world-war-II horror plots have been forced to narrowcast about life and marriage.

    However, the movie often uses the platform and the war scenarios to make the hero turn a leaf. Wow, that was expected and is nothing new, just like the Amitabh Bachchan movie Bagbhan which had no new subject but raised a few questions.

    Bawaal is chaotic, and you can’t say that the cast, director or movie name did not warn you beforehand. Don’t look at the context and the related emotions director wants to raise. Just concentrate on the questions.

     

    Questions Raised

    The movie raises many questions. If each of us starts looking inwardly, we may have multiple answers or justifications for our lives. We would individually know what the reality is and what are mere excuses and explanations. And that is where Bawaal scores. These silly micro-moments of delta recognition of the naked truth in our lives. Not that they are new, but they are presented and placed differently.

     

    Questions at an individual level. Brand-I

    What would you do if you had only a day more to live?

    What would you pack from your life and belongings in your small (say 5-7 kg) suitcase if you were forced to do so within an hour, knowing that it is all you will ever have?

    Why are we never satisfied with what we have? Why are we never happy and make the best use of what we have? Why do we keep looking for more or rather envy what others have?

     

    Reverse Engineering the Questions In Brand Terms

    And once you have done answering these questions on your personal life, try answering these collectively as for the brand.

    What would you do if you had total freedom to recreate the brand?

    What would you continue to take from the brand’s history and current state if you were forced to do, knowing that it is all the brand will ever have to work with?

    What would be the result if you really tried really hard to define the brand purpose and intent in the shortest possible array of words?

    Are you using the brand resources and characteristics to their best possible impact, or are you busy looking at the competition’s advantages and using them as an excuse?

    Is the agency and the client more of an Ajju Bhaiya before the trip?

    What is the ‘Epileptic fit’ of the client-agency relationship?

    Is the brand team at the agency and the client more image-conscious ( awards and PR coverage) than really working on the fundamental purpose ( the marriage)?

     

    Could Have Done Better

    The director, Nitesh Tiwari, could have done better. And that is always the case. It is well justified in the case of Bawaal the movie, and I can bet a comment suited to your first attempts at answering the questions.

    I love questions and have recently released my first book of poems titled ‘Always Questioning life’ with Leapfrog publications. (It’s available on Amazon, and we’ve just ordered a copy – Ed).

     

    Net-Net

    Watch this out-of-a-box movie. Think of the most oversized box you can imagine. It seems to address a niche audience and could not be a commercial success in theatres, but on OTT, it may do a slow burn, raise some questions, and be part of a few debates.

    Don’t get too emotional about context and rationality. Just flow with the director Nitesh Tiwari’s intent and try answering the questions instead of thinking of the classic cheese, caramel popcorn, or what to eat. It may be a good self-cleansing or brand realisation if and only if you watched for the questions and answered them honestly enough.

     

    Bawaal

    Directed by Nitesh Tiwari

    Starring: Varun Dhawan, Janhvi Kapoor, Manoj Pahwa, Anjuman Saxena, Mukesh Tiwari, Prateek Pachori

    On Prime Video

     

  • Sanjeev Kotnala: Jai Shri Ram!

    By Sanjeev Kotnala

     

    Sanjeev KotnalaAs I write this article, I realise that Bhagwan Shri Rama has taken over everything. The social media feed is full of messages about the consecration of Lord Ram. I hear serene hymns from the three temples that have been silent for a long time. Jai Shri Ram flags decorate the skyline, overshadowing the humble dwellings – that’s what catches my eye. It’s like a scene from a mythological or historical TV series. It resembles a Ram’s army camp at war, adorned with flags. The autos move around with the flag, and the market is doing fast business on saffron-coloured stoles, flags, kurtas and T-shirts. The flags are everywhere, and every temple resonates with celebration. Firework stalls have sprung up, and by the time I finish writing, the sounds outside will resonate loudly with bursting crackers – signalling a new wave of Hindu thoughts and pride. Jai Shree Ram.

     

    It feels like a new Diwali- the markets are decorated and lit through the evening. The clay lamps on the roadside are doing brisk business. However, today, when the ceremony takes place, the roads are quiet and deserted, reminiscent of the days during the telecast of the Ramayan.

     

    Most Hindus in the nation celebrate with pride but with cautious secularism. It is, after all, inclusive and rooted in the Sanatana tradition. It’s safe to say – Diwali is here. Victory to Lord Rama. I say I am an Indian and a Hindu and not necessarily a Hindu and an Indian. The nation comes first. Hence, where I rejoice at the temple construction and Pran Pratishta, I regret that there was bloodshed to get it. Jai Shri Ram.

     

    Huge event

    One can appreciate the intense efforts by the Sangh and BJP, turning the Pran Pratishta ceremony into a grand success. The success and engagement were never in doubt. But to enhance it, making arrangements, motivating citizens, and encouraging on-ground participation needed to be well executed. Well done. Jai Shri Ram.

    No one minds if it seems politically motivated with elections and vote banks in sight. Having endured neglect, the majority are content with being at the centre of attention. Victory to Lord Ram. Modi makes it possible. Jai Shri Ram.

     

    The instigators continue to raise their voice

    Yes, there are still posts circulating questioning the validity of the consecration, its religious sanctity, and it being constructed on a demolished mosque site. There are even posters congratulating Congress and Rajiv Gandhi for realising the dream. These are irritants of the first order, unable to see the pride and unity on this day of celebration. It’s a time when the long-suppressed aspirations of the majority are finding some answers. Sometimes, the wise need to stay silent. Their statements only reveal their intent – foolishness and a desire for divisive politics. The modern citizens of the country are more aware and taking note. Jai Shri Ram.

     

    Boost to Religion-based tourism

    Religious tourism in India is set to boom like never before. The triangle of Prayagraj, Varanasi, and Ayodhya is complete. The Char Dham yatra is a reality- though much more must be done for management and infrastructure support. The South has always been well managed, though Government interference is a concern for many devotees. Tirupati, Madurai, and many other places of worship in the South have their own importance. The East boasts Puri and Kamakhya. The jyotirlingas are spread across the country. The Golden Temple. The Buddha circuit. Dwarka and Somnath in the West, Asthvinayak in the Konkan. Ajmer Dargah, Haji Ali, and Deoband – all will see a surge. It’s going to boost infrastructure and business. Jai Shree Ram.

    Some places need stricter environmental policies and tourism management. Regularising facilities should be a priority at all destinations. Tough decisions are required for safety and security, but that’s for another time. For now, let’s revel in the joy of Pran Pratishta. Jai Shri Ram.

     

    Useless debate

    The debate about mixing politics and religion is old and useless. They were never separate. The history is witness to its use and misuse. I hope that as a new-age secular state, the country will promote every religion and contribute to the systematic, orderly management of all places of worship. They will all be under the same rules and support. Jai Shri Ram.

    I respect the party for delivering on the promise- Mandir Wahi Banayenge and the Pran Pratishta. However, I am against and do not favour any politicisation of the stage and sending political messages under the grab of a note to the nation. Yes, there will always be politics in religion and religion in politics- and it will be hard to separate the two. However, the need is to knowingly and cautiously control the skew. Jai Shri Ram.

     

    Plan to visit Ayodhya

    Having witnessed the somewhat poorly covered ceremony, I’m happy to have a virtual darshan and make plans for the future. A small check on the travel site flashed unrealistically stretched rates. Understanding the expected surge of curiosity fuelled, I have been there crowd – one is taking it slow and planning for a later date. Jai Shri Ram.

     

    Net-net

    Today, I am proud of the Pran Pratishta at the Shree Ram

    Chandra mandir. I’m delighted to have witnessed this ceremony online. It seemed an impossible dream for long.

    I’m pleased to see a somewhat south-Indian-style decoration of the statue. The initial reaction was akin to having darshan in the Puri or Tirupati temples. But with a slightly longer darshan and the euphoria of the darshan, colour and decoration no longer matter. People debating and doubting must understand that it’s not a matter of belief but a result of faith, which is unwavering and unquestionable. So, the debate about historical figures, mythology, reality, or mere imagination doesn’t matter. I welcome an era of Hindu resurgence with the Pran Pratishta at Ayodhya. Jai Shree Ram. It is Pran Pratishta in Hindus.

     

    Add-on

    If Hathway could create days benefiting many industries, January 22 could be the day – the second Diwali, Deepoutsav, pushing the economy with market initiatives and celebration. It may be the push we need for the national economy after the market lull post-Diwali in the third quarter.

     

    Sanjeev Kotnala is a senior business strategist and author. He writes on MxMIndia on Wednesdays, and sometimes on other days as well. His views here are personal.

     

  • GirlvsCancer: Provocative communication on female sexuality

     

     

    By Sanjeev Kotnala

     

    Sanjeev KotnalaWe all are afraid of the Big C. Cancer, I mean. We have no understanding of the disease’s emotional, physical and financial impact, even when we have been close to the persons fighting it. We may think we know it, but we will never really know the turmoil that a person and near ones go through during the treatment and the changes that happen, which are not restricted to physical appearance and mental framework – but how they now see and approach life, what they want and how their desires have remoulded, and how their expectations with life have changed.

     

    It is not difficult to imagine that these changes could affect the person differently based on the gender of the person. The truth is that it impacts differently, which is the basis of Girl Vs Cancer.

     

    Girl vs Cancer

    Girl vs Cancer is a non-profit organisation. It has been at the forefront as a guidance resource centre dealing with cancer diagnosis and the treatment journey. It has been vocal about the changes that female patients experience during treatment.

     

    GirlVsCancer designed a post-surgical lingerie collection. So the woman can continue to feel sexy, flattering, comfortable and, most importantly, empowering. The post-surgical collection aims to make the cancer fighter or survivor more confident and sensual in their own skin. The GirlVsCancer website is detailed and focused on its objective. It has an excellent FAQs section, answering the various doubts and questions for family and friends.

     

    The website explains their action and aim. “We are GIRLvsCANCER. A space to amplify all cancer experiences. Whether woman, femme, they/them. We are by the community, for the community. And we’re here to blow up the cancer landscape by collaborating to crush the stigma, stop isolation and bring about essential change”.

     

    Post-Cancer Female Sexuality Campaign

    Recently, its communication targeted and focused on the change in Sexual Urge and desire a woman may experience because of cancer. It is a provocative campaign, and viewer discretion is needed. It takes on two of the Taboo subjects in the same stride. The Cancer and female sexuality.

     

    Reality

    Half of women will get cancer. And of the women who get Cancer, less than a third are given any information about how a diagnosis will affect their sex life. But getting a diagnosis doesn’t mean you have to stop enjoying sex, intimacy, getting it on, getting off and finding pleasure in your body, whatever works for you. (This one is straight from GirlVsCancer, and the data references are not Indian- where the figure may get further down.)

     

    One research says that 60% of the women after cancer treatment find/experience some form of sexual dysfunction. A subject that is most likely not discussed with the patients or by the patient.

     

    The Communication.

    GIRLvsCANCER founder Lauren Mahon is very straight to the point when she says: ‘If you know, you know- it is going to resonate with you’. That is the truth. It is distant and unrealistic when you don’t know about it, and it is very different when you experience it when you have skin in the game.

     

    One of the communication talks about breast cancer and radiotherapy. Where the woman struggles with egg freezing and hormone blockers. And yes, sex is her mind, and she climaxes. Watch the three ads below.

     

    Net-net

    People may have a polarised reaction to the campaign. It is meant to be that way. GirlVsCancer wants it to be noticed and discussed and, in the process, expects the viewer to discuss the subject. The approach is risky, but I don’t think it could have been handled in a milder way. The current campaign of GirlVsCancer is naturally female-centric. Still, one would presume that male also undergoes some changes, including changes in sexuality. Hope someday someone addresses it.

     

     

     

     

  • Sanjeev Kotnala: The essence of being alive. Being better than yesterday

    By Sanjeev Kotnala

     

    Sanjeev KotnalaNo one will dispute that we all strive to be better than we have been before. It encapsulates the complete philosophy of life. And something that I endorse and follow. Hence, my wishes for everyone have been simple- ‘May Your Today Always Be Better Than Your Yesterday’. My cousin Manish Thapliyal found some wisdom by telling me that this is the nice thing he learned from me. On the other hand, my ex-colleague Mukul Bakshi would find it funny and play it back differently whenever I wished him on his birthday.

     

    However reading on Kindle ‘My Hanuman Chalisa’ by Devdutt Patinayak as the first book of 2024, I realised these simple statements with deeper meanings must be translated and shared with a broader audience.

     

    The wish and the essence of being better than yesterday are hugely personal and growth-oriented. It talks and refers to resilience and the perpetual journey towards self-improvement. It is the best wish one can extend to others, with an honest, sincere, heartfelt hope that today surpasses yesterday in every conceivable way.

     

    Life Is like a long train with vestibule modular interconnected boogies. These interconnected boogies are your timelines, and you move from one to another, not knowing how long your train is and when you will reach the end. Such interconnected life episodes shape our existence- because they shape our experiences and expectations.

     

    However, when the goal is a win-win for all. When it is not about outshining others or defeating others but to outgrow one’s former self. Just for you to be better, someone need not be bad. It reminds you to create a better today, which is based on a past that is a history is about continuous learning, introspection, and the willingness to embrace change as a catalyst for progress. You approach every day as a new sunrise of opportunity. A day where you can become a bit better. A day you can nudge yourself a wee bit closer to your goals. An opportunity to rectify mistakes, learn from experiences, and carve a path towards personal evolution.

     

    In past, we have an uncontrolled but established kaleidoscope of moments. Full of accomplishments, failures, and lessons that have defined us. And when you try to be better regularly and keep that as a sole aim, you acknowledge that life is a journey, a work in progress, and each day is a canvas waiting to be painted with the brushstrokes of improvement.

     

    This concept I follow and wish more can see meaning in extends beyond tangible achievements and physical materialistic acquisitions and acknowledgements. It shows the intricate flow of emotional intelligence, resilience, perseverance, self-understanding, clear objectives and mindfulness.

     

    Being better than yesterday is about professional life, personal life, relationships, understanding, craft and culture, experiences and expectations. It is a subtle refinement of one’s character, the cultivation of empathy, and the development of a resilient spirit capable of navigating life’s unpredictable terrain. A little bit better today is better prepared to address future uncertainties.

     

    Like every other journey in life, the journey to being better is also full of setbacks and challenges. However, one can take these hurdles and challenges as stepping stones to move forward. Remembering that the past is dead. The past is certain. The past is like the closed pages of the book. And the moment that matters is NOW and HERE. The future is unpredictable.

     

    Past should be looked at from the filter of PaRAM, pause, reflect, Absorb the learnings and just move on without the baggage. Dropping baggage every time helps to be light in mind and heart. It gives you scope to accommodate more. It is about taking the lesson and moving on and becoming a wee bit richer in your understanding, a little better prepared and a wee bit better. That’s all that is needed.

     

    Hence, I always wish a person with “May your today be better than your yesterday”. It is an acknowledgement of being human and the expected vagaries of life, and an encouragement, urging and nudging the individual to face challenges- work out solutions, work with optimism and get better than he or she was yesterday.

     

    This thought of continuous improvement also fosters a sense of Gratitude. It acknowledges the progress made. It, in turn, appreciates and celebrates success, change, and betterment- no matter how small. It has a continuum of Gratitude for the lessons learned, the opportunities presented in life, and the opportunities one exploits. It asks you to treat every day as a celebration of progress, a day with a positive ripple in life that includes those around you.

     

    The pursuit of being better than yesterday can transcend boundaries. It can be about the collective improvement ethos, inspiring communities and societies to evolve and progress together. The desire for collective advancement becomes a shared aspiration, creating a ripple effect that elevates the entire human experience.

     

    Pahaadi, the short story contest for writers with roots in Uttarakhand that I curate, is one small example. It even has the absolute understanding and delight of considering every participating writer a winner. When an unpublished or published writer sends the entry, they have taken that extra step, full of expectations, confidence, and faith to move forward and be better than yesterday.

     

    Net-net

    The only thing in life that truly matters is the commitment to being better than you were yesterday. And that is my wish for all of you. “May your today be better than your yesterday.”. So, as each day unfolds, let us embrace the opportunity to evolve, learn, and strive to make today better than yesterday. This can be related to everything you do in your personal or professional life. Branding and advertising, start-ups, innovation and marketing try doing the same thing from a different perspective.

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    This is one of the critical thoughts and rules I have synthesised from my experience in life. It is discussed in detail in my forthcoming book,  ’24 Rules of Life- I Wish I Had Known Earlier’. The book will be released in the 3rd or 4th week of March 2024. If the book interests you and you want to get updates on the book, please email me at netkot@yahoo.com or WhatsApp at 9819728963.

    And if you agree with the thought, there is a good book to read. ‘Get Better at Getting Better‘ by Chandramouli Venkatesan.

     

  • Sanjeev Kotnala: Kindle, here I come

    By Sanjeev Kotnala

     

    Sanjeev KotnalaMaybe things will now improve, and my pathetic score of reading books on Kindle will improve with it. Yes, I am still one of those prehistoric animals with a voracious reading habit. But my comfort level with digital (Kindle-Playbook or KoBo) and audio listening platforms (Audible) is limited or uncomfortable. I proudly claim that I can, at max, read two-three A4 pages of a contract or a proposal on screen, and beyond that, I must download to read. I would love to know your experience and preference and correlate it with your age.

     

    I am still a book reader who prefers the charm and joy of flipping through the pages of an engaging book while enjoying a cup of my favourite drink- tea. The added advantage is bright sunshine, sitting on the balcony or a terrace and immersing myself in the books recommended by friends or referred by the authors of the books I may have read. Two people I trust entirely on their book recommendations are Suman Srivastava and Sabu Paul.

     

    On the other side, I have a membership of Audible and Unlimited Kindle, which I must have signed sometime under the impression that it would further help my book reading or help me use time better. Nothing like that happened. Instead, I went through the painful ( yet required) process of monthly recurring payment setup on a credit card!

     

    At times, I wanted to cancel the membership, but then a simple maths told me that listening to or reading at least 6 books on them would pay for the membership. The economics of membership made sense. I added listening and reading 6 books to my checklist three months back. Desperately wanting to reach that figure before the end of the year and get back to my year end article on recommendation on books to read. Something that I used to do regularly.

     

    Unfortunately, I have disappointed myself. The aura of self-discipline I had built around me was broken. I am still working on books to read on Kindle, though I have managed to listen to a few on Audible. The audible score is much better than Kindle, primarily because of the time I have travelled alone.

     

    I enjoyed listening to ‘The Mystery of Hanuman Neem Karoli Baba’ by Sripad Jagannathan Dasa, ‘Ghost of the Silent Hills’ by Anita Krishnan, ‘Night Train at Deoli’ by Ruskin Bond, ‘Jannat aur anya Kahaniyan’ by Kushwant Singh, ‘Ravan’ (sounded so good on Audible) and ‘war of Lanka’ by Amish Tripathi, ‘The Girl in room 105’ by Chetan Bhagat ( yes I did listen to it), ‘Mafia Queens of Mumbai’ by Jane Borges and S Hussain Zaidi (Recommended) and ‘An Indian Spy in Pakistan’ by Mohanlal Bhaskar. Stories were so easy on the ear. And as I look back and try listing, I find a decent score of books on Audible.

     

    On the other hand, books like ‘The Buddha Said’ by Osho and a few others, ‘Life’s Amazing Secrets’ by Gaur Gopal Das, and ‘The subtle art of not giving a F*ck’ by Mark Manson were thought-provoking, and Audible did add to the impact.

     

    Audible also introduced me to a wonderful author Maurice Leblanc- I read ‘An Extraordinary Adventure of Arsene Lupin’.

     

    A brilliant book I never knew about was ‘Erotic Stories for Punjabi Widows’ by Balli Kaur Jaswal; it sounds corny- but if you are on Audible- listen to it.

     

    There were very few disasters in choice, far fewer than in the physical books I picked. Because audio takes that additional effort, and the choices get filtered if they do. However , I did listen to my disaster ‘Bad Mommas’

     

    I found audible better to listen to audio dramas and series like ‘Nut Jobs’, ‘Days that changed the World’, ‘Meri Priya Kahaniyan’ by Amrita Pritam’, ‘My Dad the Spy’, ‘Hijacked Histories’, ‘Kissa Khwabo ka‘ ‘Dil Local’, ‘Diary’, ‘Kaali Awaazein’, ‘True North Heist’, ‘Comedy Club’, ‘Alien: out of the shadow’, ‘The Butterfly effect’. They were well-produced and a pleasure to listen to. And I still claim I am not a podcast listener.

     

    ‘Atomic Habits’ by James Clear was downloaded but read in physical form. After that, I started following him on social media and signed up for his very useful Thursday Thoughts. ‘The Power of Subconscious Mind’ by Joseph Murphy was a delight. I am on ‘Don’t Believe Everything You Think’ by Joseph Nguyen- which is challenging to listen to. And some 13 books bought on Audible Credit and downloaded wait their turn.

     

    Frankly, that makes me think that some books are better heard than read, and some should never be heard but read. What do you think?

     

    Sometime back, I was introduced to speed control on audible. I tried listening at 1.5x, but truthfully, anything beyond 1.2X was a waste and negatively impacted the experience. It also marred the efforts that the voice-over artist and the team have put in while recording the book with all the strategically chosen pauses, tonality and, at times, special effects. Books on Audible must be heard at the speed they have been recorded, and that means that I am in a long period of listening for a book I would have completed reading in 3-4 hours.

     

    Kindle somehow suffered. Whenever I accessed it on a laptop or mobile, there were enough distractions to ensure I was not fully immersed in the experience.

     

    In the past, I read a few books on Kindle, but they were primarily books by my friends and people I know on social media. Books like ‘Seven Interludes’ by G. Podington (a class act on twisted tales), ‘MHADEI’ by Lynn de Souza, ‘A Scifi Sixpack’ and ‘A Scifi Fourtaler’ by Dilip Thosar’ (Interested in science fiction- try it out), ‘Maa Narmada Parikarma’ by Srinivas Shastri, a lovely book ‘Here Today Here Tomorrow’ by friends in my Insighter group ( a definite read based on future situations post covid), and ‘Dog Tails’ by Radha Thomas ( recommend pet lover to read). I was in a hurry to read these books.

     

    Then there were books I may have never ordered to read but read on Kindle- like ‘A Chapter out of My Life’ by Salil Agarwal, somewhat similar to my books, ‘Life Reloaded’ and ‘Reflections’ which are true life stories that impacted the authors on their thinking and approach to Life!.

     

    Then, there are books I have downloaded. Books like ‘The Surpassing Power of Liberating Structures’ and ‘Trust, Belief, Influence and Rapport’ feature in my download libraries on Kindle and a long list of books on Audible waiting to be opened. As in Audible, I earn accredit every month, and their email prompts make me download a book to keep the credits in manageable control without letting them expire.

     

    Things may change a bit. On my 60th birthday, unaware of my choice and difficulty with digital on-screen reading, my son and daughter gifted me the Kindle White device. That was based on their understanding of my reading habit. They were just trying to help me in the way the digital native could. Now that I have been gifted a Kindle, I better reflect their choice in my reading. So, Kindle, here I come. In the year ahead, it could be Kindle, Kindle, Kindle all the way.

     

  • Sanjeev Kotnala: Qiddiya: Don’t Just Live Life, Play Life

    By Sanjeev Kotnala

     

    Sanjeev KotnalaMany of you would know what Qiddiya is all about, and a few would have gone deep into understanding it. I was blown away by the sheer magnitude of Qiddiya. I am creative and imaginative, but this was at a different level. It could be the money that makes it happen. However, it reminded me of a quote that AG Krishnamurthy often referred to in Mudra: To realise a dream, you must first dream it.

    After being exposed to many development project advertising and the inbuilt exaggerated promises and plans, I wasn’t prepared for what Qiddiya was about.

     

    Trapped and Pulled into The Experience

    An innocent-looking tweet with an engaging audiovisual of some 150 seconds trapped me into going through an entire website where the thought was totally integrated and amplified. Why not? What started as a sizeable thematic entertainment park has blown into something expected: the giant 365 sq km megacity in Saudi Arabia. The Qiddiya project just outside Riyad, at a cost of 75 Billion Dollars, is expected to have 600K residents and bring in some 48 Million visitors annually! Promising a place where you never run out of things to do and places to go!

    Here, watch the Audio-Visual that pushed me to take the trip to a well-made website that engaged you on all counts.

     

    The Promise Reflected at Qiddiya

    One cannot but agree with the statement, A life well lived is a life well played.

    One could feel the whole sentiment while watching the audio-visuals and going through the website. It sounded so right. “Qiddiya Is The World’s Most Passionate Ambassador Of Play. A Beacon Of Hope For A Better Future, Where Play Is Not Just For The Playtime, It Is A Way Of Life… Play Is Essential To Living A Complete And Holistic Life. And As We (Qiddiya) Build Cities, We Build Lives. We Play Life.” And Riyad would be a perfect foil and example, some 45 Km from Qiddiya.

    There is a survey that is used to build logic of play and life in KSA ( Kingdom of Saudi Arabia), You could ignore it- this is the only offbeat part of the whole presentation.

    You can agree or disagree when it says that 90% of adults agree that play is as important for the well-being of adults as it is for children! 77% believe they would be happier in life if they played more, and 73% believe they would generate more ideas and create new things if they played more. I ignored it as an overplay, but the integration of communication with the project cannot be faulted or doubled.

    Watch the audio-visual that gives you an introduction to what to expect.

     

    The Six Power of Play

    I loved this segment, and if you want to read more, you can visit the website. It talks of the profound effect of play on the human mind and body and how it plays a significant role in developing cognitive abilities like critical thinking, problem-solving and memory. How play is being used to fight against neurodegenerative disorders in adults like dementia including diseases like Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s. And that immediately kicked in the mental demand to indulge in some play and games. The six powers are to Thrive, Create, Imagine, Connect, Grow, and Escape. The whole text, with the rightly justified visuals in this section, makes the web experience grand, just like the project. Truly a project that can claim to say with confidence- Qiddiya City- where fantasy meets life and gaming takes on another level.

     

    THE Numbing Mega-Numbers

    The numbers are numbing enough. The largest theme entertainment park spans 80 acres, the tallest at 160 m, the longest at 4 Km and the fastest at 250 Km/hour Falcon Flight roller coaster. A 23-ride, 63-acre water park constructed at 750 Million dollar cost. A Jack Nicklaus Golf course. A 7 KM race track for competitions and passenger rides. Concert arena and much more. It will host the athlete village and competitions in the 2034 Asian Games. And there are videos of the progress under Watch Play Progress. There is a sustainability angle built into the project. The project claims to work towards protecting the indigenous flora and fauna and the invaluable Arabian Heritage. It works for Enhanced Biodiversity, sustainable mobility for the community, waste management, and water resource optimisation- all planning to help achieve Qiddiya’s goal to meet Saudi Arabia’s 2030 environmental sustainability compliance vision. All signs of a place that knows what it is doing and is ready for the future.

     

    Net-net

    It is superb, brilliant and unprecedented. The project, communication and the website.

    The dream is there and is taking shape. I don’t know when and how I will ever visit the place, but trust me, it is going into the bucket list of all the people with an iota of play in them. Hope it is completed in time. A minor escalation in the cost would bother the bankers for the project. The worry is the saying:  whenever the tallest, longest, and largest projects are completed – an economic meltdown follows. Hope we are wrong this time.

     

  • Stop New Year Resolutions. Focus on the lurking mid-life crisis

     

     

    By Sanjeev Kotnala

     

    Sanjeev KotnalaIf you are considering making resolutions, you must read this and stop wasting your time on something unstable. For me, resolutions and a need to have them are signs of something bigger- a lurking mid-life crisis. So let me wish you a Happy New Year in advance before you read any further.

     

    I think we have totally misunderstood and wrongly defined a mid-life crisis. We have loaded it with the assumption that it is about sudden career changes, impulsive decisions, life-work balance, insecurities, and uncertainties. Midlife crisis is more about inner turmoil than the external materialistic world. It is the stage of finding self at a crossroads of psychological and emotional shifts necessitating a re-evaluation of status and a course correction in alignments and approach to life. It is a lot more about seeking new answers and raising fresh questions.

     

    As a mid-life crisis coach, I see a mid-life crisis whenever there is a dramatic shift in responsibilities and accountability and when suddenly new expectations take birth without references to possible expressions and experiences.

     

     

    Redefining Mid-life Crisis

    Midlife crises are more about fulfilment, authenticity, trust, security, listening, bouncing boards and confidants. Many times, in a blind alley of life, people lack the knowledge or wrongly interpret the signs. They start grappling with a broader question, contemplating the meaning and purpose of their lives. They strongly realise they are incapable of controlling their destiny and personal development. They become confused and aimless because they are unable to sort out emotions.

     

    It happens when a child becomes a teenager, a working adult and then a spouse and a parent and a grandparent. When the father becomes a father-in-law, it requires redefining the emotional space, expectations, and behavioural patterns one lives in.

     

    Every stage of these changes requires an almost chrysalis type of smooth transformation. It happens when you change your professional work arena and cities to a different cultural arena. When your set of friends, hobbies and interests stop finding time for you or you start to fail to keep commitment. All these are triggers of a mid-life crisis. It’s about a lack of future thinking and a need for more trust in the current scenario.

     

    I take this year-end opportunity to say that resolutions are no solutions to the mid-life crisis. I say so because resolutions are based on certain societal and personal demands that are correctible, self-controlled, and voluntary.

     

     

    Self-reflections instead of Resolutions

    Instead of an impulsive resolution, it is time for self-reflection. Do a deep dive to understand personal values and aspirations and how life can be aligned with them. It is okay if you don’t find answers. And it is okay if you don’t find answers for long. Do the course correction and alignment to whatever contextual findings you accumulate during introspection. Don’t hide from negatives, and don’t depend too much on positives. If you have a list of resolutions, you are in some mid-life crisis trap.

     

     

    Change

    Emotional turmoil and emotional imbalance resulting from a mid-life crisis can be avoided by recognising the change continuum of life. Change is a must, and we must embrace the correct change as a part of personal growth and a meaningful life; instead of resisting it, individuals should embrace it as a natural part of personal growth. These changes may be like a need for redefining career paths, exploring new hobbies, cultivating meaningful relationships, redefining the work and life balance, critically balancing the expectations and in some process, being open to saying NO to the fresh demands and expectations that friends, family and society put on you.

     

     

    Need for Guidance

    The crisis often magnifies because we wait to start reacting to it. We remain reactive and not proactive. We ignore these changing emotional landscapes until there is a sudden tectonic shift. Engaging with therapists, life coaches, and mid-life coaches and discussing with your confidant, spouse, and family could greatly help. It will help gain clarity on various subjects that will help in the challenging period.

     

    Reassessing and focussing on Cultivating Meaningful Relationships with family, friends, and partners can provide emotional support and contribute to a sense of fulfilment that is much needed during such a phase.

     

     

    You are the CEO of your Body & Life

    Hell, what’s wrong. You take on significant responsibilities and deliver on the promises – except when it comes to yourself. How can you forget that your first responsibility is to yourself? You are the CEO of I-Incorporated. And hence, your prime responsibility is self-well-being. There is no better time to realign your priorities to your physical and mental well-being.

     

     

    Redraft your Motivations & Passion

    I am not really asking you to find the purpose. Just take care of your passion and interest. Remember things that you have on your bucket list to take care of, things that are beyond work and some of them are really personal.

     

     

    Net-net

    A mid-life crisis is a complex, multidimensional, and multifaceted experience yet to be understood entirely. It has many forms and is different for every individual as it is impacted by the social, family and work expectations and experiences of an individual. Rather than relying on the often repetitive resolutions that one loses track of within the first week, look at realigning yourself with self-priorities, embracing change, seeking professional guidance if needed and having meaningful relationships you can depend upon. Rest assured, a mid-life crisis is a common phenomenon, and if handled better, one will always emerge a lot stronger, wiser, and more fulfilled on the other side of the current mid-life crisis.

     

  • The Business of Last Rites

     

     

    By Sanjeev Kotnala

     

    Sanjeev KotnalaYou would die to enjoy our services’, ‘We will Bury you cheaper and deeper’, ‘6 Feet apart is better than 6 Feet under’, ‘Drop in when you drop dead’, and ‘Grave problems resurrected here’ are some of the whacky banners I remember outside Danny Michael’s Funeral service Mahim, Mumbai advertising last rite/funeral services. Danny Pinto proudly lives the legacy of a century of service and promises real funeral directors, embalmers, export of remains, hearse, morgue, portable morgue and ambulance services. He is considered the best in the business with a clientele that includes Rajiv Gandhi and Mother Teressa. He also handled bodies from the 26/11 attack and train blasts. However, he does not have a pre-order filled out with client requests.

     

    People dread talking about death, and that is okay as surviving is the essential first instinct. However, I have always wondered why there are no funeral / last rites / Last journey or Antim Sanskar services advertisements. It is not a banned subject. And we even hesitate to use death as a lever in advertising- including Insurance advertising.

     

    Changing Times with Last Rites

    Antim Sanskar, the last journey, is an integral part of life. It is one of the 16 prominent Sanskars in Hindus, without which Moksha is impossible. Yet, very few think about death and last rites, and rarely does someone plan for it. Frankly, it could be complicated and, at times, a costly affair.

    Unfortunately, death is a grey area for us, and so are the processes, rituals and practices. I have experienced doubts and a lack of knowledge, leading to debates, discussions and complications to the extent of damaging social relations.

    A few things about the last rites and funerals have changed. One stark change is the time people now devote to the last rites. Sometimes, it is simply a journey in an ambulance from the hospital to the cremation grounds. People do the Chautha (4th day) instead of the traditional Gyahravi (11th day) or the Tehravi (13th day) rituals and shudikaran (cleansing). Many are doing the Chmayi (six-month ritual) instead of the  Barsi (after a year) shudhikaran rituals. A few enterprising senior citizens and people living alone are planning their last rites and dictating a plan and the required funds. Many such people are doing their Atm Shradh, unsure if the next generation will follow the proper rituals or if they have no one after them to do it for them. The industry servicing last rites and Antim sanskar is also changing.

    Everything said and done, I am yet to see a funeral director or the karamkandi pandit asking for a satisfaction score or net-promotion score, or for a reference or asking the relatives to give them another chance to serve you better. Yet, you have someone in the family or social circle coming up with the references and contact details. These services work more on word-of-mouth recommendation.

     

    Last Rite Services

    It is a different tough category – as it deals with the ultimate truth – death. It is a sensitive but essential service that helps ease the family’s farewell processes. Marketing/advertising such services need a balance of promises, claims and emotions with a touch of empathy and desired professionalism.

    Everyone wants the last journey of the loved one to be handled with care and respect. The family is concerned about following the rituals and practices. Unfortunately, not many in the family know the rituals in totality. Moreover, there are subtle regional variations and expectations. The same community in different zones adapt to local practices, which more often leads to confusion. I have attempted to share information on the rituals and processes of a particular community under my project #IgnorantHindu.

    There is a lot of trust involved in the service. The neighbours step in to provide the details of the karamkandi pandit. The hospital spot boy often gives the first advice and reference, including the contact numbers for the refrigerated beds to keep the body. The pandit then directs towards the shop from where everything can be arranged. However, the needed information and details keep coming in bits and pieces.

     

    All-in-One Service

    However, that is changing. Nowadays, the karamkandi pandits offer a package including pre-cremation rites at home, cremation, the scripture (Gita or Garur Puran) reading, dispersing of ashes, the 11th or 13th-day ritual, advice on timing and what to speak in shok sabha (memorial service) and even the annual Barsi (year-end feast). They even have a printed list of things needed at every stage.

    Though it may not matter to the departed soul, the family members desire the best services, sometimes calling for personalisation, including unique memorial services, themed ceremonies, and tailored funeral arrangements. This works well with families wanting a more personalised, dignified and remembered farewell. However, these dramatic changes are not that visible in the Hindu antim sanskar. Nowadays, one even sees cremation and last rites photography, which was typically unacceptable. I’m unsure if that results from the desire to share every moment of life on social media.

     

    Digital helps Last Rites Services

    Advertising for last-rite services is challenging. However, last-rite service providers are bridging the gap with a relatively strong online presence. Their websites provide all the information, including services, pricing, and even the company’s ethos! Non-profit organisations are helping with various items, and the details can easily be searched online.

    Some of these companies use social media platforms to share testimonials and educational content on grief support to engage their current and potential clients in a more informal and supportive manner.

    These last-rite experts and funeral service directors position themselves as knowledgeable resources with the credibility of orchestrating so many journeys. And honestly speaking, in such a situation, the family just follows whatever is asked for.

    Today, you can surf and buy the required items or get to know the contact details of the Priest, Maulavi or Karamkandi Pandit and even negotiate a package for the services. Earlier, there was hardly any transparency in cost. The ritual fee changed as per affordability. The families were emotionally restricted from negotiating, discussing or disputing. They would end up paying whatever was asked in an emotionally challenging moment.

    For distant relatives, live streaming is part of the process. If there is no one to perform the rites, there are people willing to do it, including cremation.

    The most often used and well-known services in Mumbai are Antim Sanskar Seva- for Hindus. Britto Undertakers and Danny Michael Pinto. Your town would also have such services.

     

    Last Journey Needs Education

    Last rites, rituals, and processes differ across religions, regions, sects, and castes. People adopt changes when they migrate to a new location. There is no single source for information on last-rite rituals; it is passed from generation to generation more from observation than knowledge sharing. There is a need for community-level education on last journey planning, grief support, and end-of-life decisions.

    The new generation does not take anything for granted, and no one is prepared for such moments in the family. Maybe communities should organise workshops, webinars and seminars on will preparation, the importance and purpose of ‘Living Will’, the importance of pre-planning last journey and the psychological aspects of grief. #IgnorantHindu is one such project that tries to share some information on such subjects.

     

    Net-net

    Well, you can leave it to chance and to the family. Or you can be involved in it by planning your last journey and sharing the plan with the family. You may not want to do some of the rituals or want it differently. You can even sign a deal and provide the funds for the last rites and rituals.

    One person I know wanted children in the orphanage to be given bhog (food) instead of the pandits. One wanted to do a quick electric cremation instead of burning wood. Then there was a case where the family went overboard with all the rituals in the case of the person who himself did not believe in it. So, why take chances.

    Think about it. Plan about it. And maybe start with doing the aatm shradh and writing the WILL and the LIVING WILL.

     

    PostScript: Surprisingly no award hungry agency has done work in this sphere.

     

    Add-oN: Indian advertising has rarely used death as a lever, including in insurance ads. Here is #IgnormatHindu sharing information on Yamraj, the last journey and Aatm Shradh.

     

  • Sanjeev Kotnala: Watch Investment in Relationships in Bigg Boss

    By Sanjeev Kotnala

     

    Sanjeev KotnalaThis week, I read this beautiful article in The Times of India by Santosh Desai titled ‘The Anger of the Strong’. There is no denying that there is a different kind of anger on the ground, and the anger reflected on the screen is a reflection of it. Maybe an earthquake of a different type is simmering under layers of social construct.

    While reflecting on this overt and covert anger, I watched the state election throw a few surprises. Some of these surprises have the political investment in women’s power, empowerment, schemes, and support behind them. It reminded me of the movie Animal, where the lead speaks about the woman selecting alpha males and the males investing in women with broader pelvic – a sign that they can bear children better. Such talk is against current social discourse. But, at the same time, Salman Khan in Bigg Boss questioned Vikki’s statement – who said he has invested in his wife. Salman Khan (in turn, the producers and the channel) objected to the word invested used by a businessman.

     

    Insenstitive Bigg Boss?

    Salman Khan made it sound suspiciously crude, and most likely, it was not how the businessman spoke or intended.

    Salman is the host/ anchor/ curator of Bigg Boss, which has a huge following. Salman himself is a voice that is heard and followed. Should he not think twice before saying this on National TV? It will most likely adversely affect the couple (Vikki and Ankita Lokhande). Or that is purely collateral damage in the run-up to TRP. But all the participants knowingly joined the show. The relationships must be strong to survive such onslaughts of observation and doubts.

    Questioning people on moral and ethical grounds has been the reality show’s way of instigating fights and debates and creating rifts. It is a necessary part of the Bigg Boss toolkit. However, they had to pull one of the participants for doing it when things went out of hand. Talk of double standards and hypocrisy.

    In the current season, Bigg Boss is too involved in the game; in fact, he is playing the game. With the added advantage of omnipresent mics and cameras, Bigg Boss transparently exposes people and their possible strategies. This is hurting the show. Today, it is a show on speedbreakers rather than on steroids.

    The fun is lost because it does not require much thinking on the part of the participants and the need to be agile and completely flexible. No participant has to play catchup.

     

    Investing in Relationship Misunderstood

    I wonder if INVESTING in a woman, love, or spouse is so wrong! And should one not see this in the context of the person who has spoken thus. Vikki is a businessman, and it may be natural for him to use terms like interest, investment, return, results, budget, profit, and loss in regular conversation. There is a possibility that an ordinary man may take a different meaning and then reflect on it in an unwarranted way. But investing in relationships and spouses is not something new. It has always been there. We all do it all the time. Tell me if I am wrong in presuming this is the reality.

     

    Relationship Matrix in Bigg Bosss

    In Bigg Boss Season 17, one can watch a few relationship start-ups and a few look for the cash flow of emotions and reassurance of funding of feelings every day. There are some with hic-up and no clear direction. And a few are just busy burning. Before you start reacting, let me correct it. There are more relationships than in any other season, and every relationship is not romantic, but they are definitely complicated.

     

    Relationships Demand Investment

    One must understand that the most valuable investments are not in monetary assets but in relationships. Be it any relationship. Father-son, Sister-brother, Husband -wife or friends. And in the relationship with a spouse, it is an idea of wholeheartedly remaining invested, proving that love, support, and personal growth are some of the most rewarding returns on investments.

    Emotional investments are the foundation of a fulfilling, happy life. Nurtured emotional bonds strengthen the connection between spouses.

    In Bigg Boss, Salman has questioned this very basic between two good human beings. When the couple are professionals, they have their own space, aspirations, desires, and ambitions, which demand individual attention and an assurance of appreciation from the partner. A surety of an unwavering pillar of support, offering encouragement, understanding, and sometimes even making personal sacrifices to ensure partners’ success. And this works both ways.

    The partners invest in each other’s development by encouraging each other to pursue their passions and evolve as individuals, creating an environment where both partners can thrive individually and as a couple. This is the prime truth behind successful unions.

    Investment in a relationship must be understood.

    Every human needs a portfolio of relationships within Family, close society, community and professional workspace. Each of them demands different types of investment of time, effort, emotions and feelings, including growing expectations. These resources are never in abundance. Hence, the trade-off and skews lead to inevitable stress and strain.

     

    Bigg Boss Relationships and Investment.

    People watching Bigg Boss would know it best, but here is a rough map for those not in the loop.

    It is the mid-season; a fresh set of investments are being made in new and existing relationships. The expectations are more precise and less transparent. The stage is set for the state where the relationships will matter a hell of a lot more, or the investment will turn sour.

    These investments are being made with short- and long-term expectations. Participants have thrown the caution out of the way and yet forget that past performance is no guarantee of future results- and that is true for all our relationships.

    Vikki, who ‘invested’ in Ankita Lohkhande and feels low sometimes for being referred to as Anita Lohkhande’s husband. Samarth, the current boyfriend of I Love You Now- I Don’t Love You Now – Isha and her ex-Abhishek, who still has an affinity for her, create an acute angled love triangle. The relationship to watch is of Samarth and Abhishek- the ex and the current.

    Arun and now-ejected Tahelkha were one solid Jai-Veeru relationship. However, surprisingly, Arun is pally and thick with Abhishek, who masterminded Tehelka’s ouster in many ways.

    Aishwariya and her husband, Neel- have different dynamics of dominance and excuses with coupled individuality.

    Kamzadi, the fire band and my favourite from Assam, is a no-nonsense, controlled, non-romantic relationship with Abhishek and a love-hate one with Manara. She is a wild card and unpredictable, but she is sensible and individually strong like women from Assam. In fact, she needs a minor realignment to get back in the game.

    Sana, the lawyer, is searching for a relationship every nomination day. Then there is Rinku – who may say what is a relationship but just a transaction!

     

    Net-net

    Investing in relationships is needed and an integral part of its nurturing. These are the emotions, feelings, time and effort, care, passion, and sometimes money. None of these are abundant, so one must choose the right relationship to Invest in and look forward to significant ROI.