Category: SANJEEV KOTNALA

  • Challenging the Disparity in Our Reverence for the Paralympics

    Sanjeev KotnalaThe recent 2024 Paris Summer Olympic Games were a grand spectacle that captivated the world, where athletes from every corner of the globe pushed the boundaries of human capability. Nations celebrated their victories with exuberance, their stories of dedication and sacrifice lauded by everyone, and their achievements etched into the nation’s sports history annals. With their extraordinary performance, many of these names fulfilled the nation’s desires and dreams and became household names. Shreyesh and Manu Bhaker, Neeraj Chopra and Sindhu are examples of this.

    But there’s a darker side to this celebration of the human spirit–a glaring inequality that is almost racist in its subtlety and pervasive in its impact. There is a disparity in how we address and react to the Paralympics, as if the challenges are somehow less, the medals are of a different hue, or the gold is of a lesser carat. Pat yourself if you know Bhagyashri Mahavrao Jadhav and Sumit Antil and their sports: the flagbearer for India at the Para Olympics 2024. Or if the names of sportspersons like Nitesh Kumar (Badminton), Avani Lekhara (Shooting), Bhabina Patel ( Table Tennis), Yogesh Kathuniya Mariyappan Thangavelu and Preethi Pal (Athletics), and sound familiar to you. I did not know many of these names before I started writing this article.

    Like the Olympics, the Paralympics are a stage where athletes represent their countries, strive for excellence, overcome incredible odds, and inspire millions. Yet, the enthusiasm, pride, and recognition accompanying Olympic victories are noticeably dimmed when it comes to the Paralympics. This disparity in perception is not just unfair–it’s unjust.

     

    Double Standards in Recognition

    Consider the emotional wave that swept across the country when Manu Bhakar won the bronze or the emotional tsunami that cut across the nation when Vinesh Phogat lost her chance because she was a few grams overweight. These were moments of collective pride and charged emotions of national unity, where the athlete was hailed as a hero.

    Compare this to the reaction when a Paralympian achieves the same feat. Fortunately, nowadays, they make it to the sports page and the front page like Avani  Lekhera and Mona Agarwal did for their win in shooting. However, the applause is fainter and lasts that much shorter. The media coverage is sparse, and the recognition is fleeting. It’s as if their gold is not as golden, and their victory is not as victorious.

    This disparity reveals a troubling double standard. Paralympic athletes train just as hard, if not harder, than their Olympic counterparts. They face the same pressures, gruelling schedules, more demanding physical challenges and most often, a challenging sponsor and monetary gap. Yet, the world seems to view their achievements as lesser, as if the effort required to overcome physical disabilities diminishes the value of their triumphs. This is not just a failure to recognise individual merit; it’s a failure to acknowledge the full spectrum of human potential.

     

    The Need for a Paradigm Shift

    This almost dismissive attitude towards Paralympic achievements reflects a more profound societal bias that equates physical ability with worth. This bias sees disability not as a different ability but as a deficiency, something less than a whole. This mindset is changing but at a pace that is too slow for comfort. It must change now.

    The Paralympics should be celebrated with the same enthusiasm, pride, and respect as the Olympics. Paralympians, too, represent the countries. Their dreams are just as big, their efforts just as intense, and their victories just as hard-earned. They deserve not only equal recognition but also equal respect.

     

    Steps Toward Change

    A concerted effort on multiple fronts is needed to address this issue. Fortunately, media coverage of the Paralympics has improved—though still far less than that of the Olympics. Educational campaigns should be launched to raise awareness about the Paralympics, highlighting the athletes’ stories, the challenges they overcome, and the significance of their achievements.  Touch your heart, and you will know how much you have celebrated your para Olympians. How have the brands, corporate sectors, and government short-changed them? We talk of equality in sports. Can we start with equality of support, funding, sponsorship, and recognition for Paralympians?

    Most importantly, we as individuals need to change our perceptions. We need to challenge our biases and recognise that the value of a medal is not in the physical act of winning it but in the courage, determination, and spirit it represents. The colour of the medal, the carat of its gold, is the same whether it is won at the Olympics or the Paralympics. We must feel the same pride and maybe more when our athletes win in Para Olympics. We must celebrate- but more importantly, we must watch them perform the way we watched and chased our summer Olympians. That may pull the money into the sports, trigger a new wave of recognition and push para-sports.

     

    A Call to Action

    It’s time for us to change the narrative. It’s time to celebrate Paralympians not as athletes with disabilities but as athletes. It’s time to give them the recognition they deserve and to be as proud of their achievements as we are of any Olympic victory.

    The Paralympics are not a sideshow but a testament to the indomitable human spirit. Let’s honour that spirit with the respect it deserves.

    In doing so, we uplift Paralympians and ourselves as we move towards a more inclusive, equal, and just society. Let the pride in our hearts be as strong, the cheers as loud, and the recognition as enduring for every champion—Olympic and Paralympic alike.

  • Sanjeev Kotnala: Join me in a Conversation about Death

    Sanjeev KotnalaDeath is the ultimate truth—one thing that will happen. We all know it, but we are not comfortable with the idea. Death, for not-so-unknown reasons, is not normalised like Birth. I believe it is hugely misunderstood and unnecessarily feared. We must look at it as a culmination, a celebration of a well-lived life, a milestone for the time you are allotted on the planet Earth, the completion of a part of a journey—not the end!

     

    It becomes easy to accept death when you believe in and accept duality in life. Somehow, I do not understand people not accepting death as a part of life. Hence, I use every possible opportunity to understand and normalise death.

     

    Death is a taboo subject. No one wants to discuss it. There are so many definitions and types of death—the least understood phenomenon of life.

     

    One of my searches led me to read about Death Café.  It seemed my kind of place, and I wanted to experiment.

     

    Origin Of Death Café

    Death café is a concept started by Jon Underwood in 2011 and continued by his wife, Donna Molley, after his death. It is based on the ideas of Café Mortal that Bernard Crettaz initiated after studying the rites and customs accompanying death in society. The website suggests that more than 17932 Death Cafés have been conducted in 89 countries since September 2011.  I am unsure if India is part of that circle.

     

    What Is Death Café?

    The idea of a Death café is not necessarily one of comfort, finding and giving solace, or helping people come to terms with their loss.

    It is about coming to terms with the very idea of death.

    It is to normalise discussions around death.

    A place where it might be possible to appreciate and maximise the pleasure of our finite lives – because death is normalised there.

    ‘We worry about the future and remain entangled in our past. In the process, we fail to live in the present, an essential part of life. Death Café, in its own way, helps you realise this part of life. I believe an increased awareness of death may help people make the most of their (finite) lives.  (Original statement attributed to Donna Molley).

     

    Inspiration for Conversation Around Death

    Jon Underwood was motivated to start Death Café after reading the work of Bernard Crettaz in the Independent newspaper.

    I want to experiment with a Death Café in India. Maybe name it Conversations

    Around Death (CAD), as ‘Mauth Pe Charcha’ sounds morbid, unappealing, and not being the fitting descriptor.

    Maybe keep a bit of a differentiated format that is not entirely bound by the social franchise and guidelines of Death Café, which I appreciate and acknowledge as being exceptionally honest and straightforward.

    There are cultural differences, and hence, a bit of tweaking in the process. However, the purpose is essentially the same. It has worked in some 80+ countries, but I am unsure how it will work in India.

     

    What do I Expect to Happen in Conversation Around Death?

    Conversation Around Death is expected to be a regular meeting of strangers to remember what matters over a nice cup of tea or coffee and a bite of a snack.

    There is no agenda, objective, or theme.
    One will try to keep the discussion around death with the sole purpose of normalising it. It will help the participants realise that death is one of the many events in a person’s lifetime, and there is no need to give it undue importance.

    However, one will be conscious not to lead people to a conclusion or course of action. Conversation Around Death is not aimed at creating a cult or a sect that is more comfortable with death than others.

    In India, where we have different understandings of life, religion, and life after death, maybe we need ‘Conversation Around Death’ to come closer to them—one process at a time.

     

    Will You Attend Conversation Around Death?

    I know it is tough to find people keen to talk about death, and finding people willing to host the ‘Conversation Around Death’ is even more challenging. My attempt with a few restaurant owners drew expected objections. Hence, NO, I don’t have a suggestion for the venue. It is open if someone wants to volunteer space in a restaurant, home, or meeting hall.

     

    Why attend a ‘Conversation Around Death? 

    Your friends and relatives may laugh if you tell them you are going to meet a group of strangers to discuss death! Some may wonder if you lack emotions. You will have to be honest and trust yourself.  It is not about demystifying death. It is just getting to be an attempt to be on good terms with death- accepting it as a normal human phenomenon- maybe a milestone in life. Maybe expect a stimulating discussion on a less understood subject or get some help overcoming the loss of someone dear.

     

    Success – No Guarantee

    Don’t expect much. I am unsure if the first ‘Conversation Around Death’ will succeed.  We all know that success is contextual. However, I am sure many will share a similar thought and may wish to join the conversation with their perceptions and prejudices. And I don’t think anyone will have an issue with that. Maybe it is just a question of seeking- identifying, and reaching out.

     

    Moderating Conversation Around Death

    One does not need to be a psychologist, psychotherapist, or priest to discuss death in such a meeting dedicated to normalising ‘Conversation Around Death’. It requires a normal conversation with every bit of personal misinformation, perceptions, realities, and understanding, as no one knows what is true or right.

    It would be nice to have a moderator who is conversant with people’s expected behaviour on the subject. I don’t have one, and I am sure I am not the one. However, I am willing to lead and moderate the discussion if required.

    Such a voluntary self-interest meeting will typically be a non-homogeneous group. Hence, participants respect one another’s beliefs and avoid any attempts to convert or change someone’s beliefs. No one is an expert or wants to be acknowledged as an expert.

     

    So Where Could the Conversation Around Death Lead?

    The answer is simple- I don’t know.

    It will entirely depend upon how the group pilots the discussion.

    Maybe, at first, one could discuss what death is like. Why do we fear Death? How do our views of death impact the way we live life? Why is death misunderstood? What is your biggest fear of death? What do you want your legacy to be? What is the thing one wants to do before dying? How and what is empty dying? What are the rituals about death? And why are the rituals important? Maybe someone may want to discuss- Is there life after death?

    As I said, maybe it will be a free-flowing conversation with no constraints. Maybe we will need to remind ourselves not to deviate from the topic—death.

     

    So, What am I Waiting for?

    I may not be ready to take the leap of faith. I want someone to join in making the first ‘Conversation Around Death’ a reality. No, I am not worried – what if no one turns up? But I am waiting for someone to step up and offer a convenient place to hold ‘Conversation Around Death’.  Maybe a coffee shop, café in a hospital, gym, restaurant, college, company, or club could give us some space.  If you have a space- please connect.

    The infrastructure requirement is minimalistic: a few chairs and Tea-coffee snacks to keep the discussion flowing between the expected 10-15 participants. Yes, ‘Conversation Around Death’ could happen online, but I believe it would be best done offline. However, an online version could be considered if there is enough push.
    The gathering is neither for profit nor a charity; hence, the participants are expected to pay for their tea, coffee, and snacks.
    If you are willing, connect with me and let us try one soon.
    I am game for a small start on any Friday or Saturday in Mumbai.

     

    Net-net

    Here is a thought.

    Once we accept – and there is no way reason why we won’t accept the fact that one day we all will die, it is for ourselves to decide what we are going to do in the limited time we have in hand.

    I push people to think through this in my Brand-I workshop because, in the end, it is not about when, where, why, and how we die but how we live.

    Someone in the news around Death Café said it so beautifully. “We live knowing that everything dies. Like the sun, it’s a fact of life. And, like the sun, we tend not to look right at it. Unless you’ve experienced a recent death, it’s probably not something you discuss. But a Death Cafe is trying to change that with a serving of tea and cake”.

    So, if you want to join hands to take it forward or have a place and interest, please do connect. I would hate for such a beautiful, powerful thought to die because of a lack of support.

    How about an insurance or wellness brand stepping in to help?

  • Sanjeev Kotnala: A Delightful Stay for Pets with IHCL Seleqtions

    Sanjeev KotnalaTravelling with pets in India is a challenge. There are limited options for transport and accommodation. Planning a getaway often means leaving your furry friend behind or struggling to find pet-friendly facilities. Tata IHCL Seleqtion is a new experience in pet-friendly accommodation.

     

    Pet Travel

    In local travel, most cabs on hire refuse to allow pets. Drivers of Ola and Uber scoot and refuse the ride the moment they see a pet. I don’t know why they cannot add a pet button in their app so drivers who are comfortable with pets pick the service.   The cars you hire do not want your pet friends. The pet transport services available in limited cities are too costly. While three-wheeler autos in Mumbai tend to be more accommodating, they’re okay for short rides and are restricted to the suburbs. The only viable option for outstation travel is the First AC on trains, which is restrictive and often unavailable. And then you have to have the whole cabin or the coupe, or you could be denied travel at the last minute of any passenger objects. I have first-hand experience with it, and here is how to travel with Pet on the train. And there are simple steps to make it even better.

     

    Pet Accommodation

    When it comes to finding a hotel that welcomes pets, it’s like searching for a needle in a haystack. The situation is improving with time, and there is a definite business field there for pet-friendly accommodation.

    The Tata IHCL Seleqtions Hotels have changed the canvas. This pet-friendly chain across the country has opened doors to a new travel experience, and my recent stay at their Mumbai property, The President, was nothing short of exceptional.

     

    Welcoming the Furry Pet Friends

    From the moment we checked in, the hospitality extended to the family and my pet, Milo Kotnala, a 7-year-old Beagle, was heart-warming. We got the room on the top floor with the brilliant view of the bay and port because of Milo—as there were two other rooms where pets had checked-in and maybe pet-friendly rooms are on the upper floors.

    Our room had a special ‘PAW SPOTTED HERE’ tag on the door, letting the service staff know a pet was inside. A small but thoughtful detail set the tone for the experience ahead. Inside the room, my pet was greeted with his own set of amenities—a pet bowl, pee pads,  a complimentary meal pack, a poo bag, and even a cosy pet bed. The little touches announce loudly that pets here aren’t just tolerated but genuinely welcomed.

     

    Pet-Friendly Spaces and Dining

    What stood out further was the allowance for pets in designated lobby areas, where we could enjoy breakfast and meals together. It was a relief not to have to worry about leaving my pet behind while dining, a common challenge at other hotels. Watching other pet owners with their furry companions share this unique experience was heartening. It’s rare to find such spaces in India, but Tata IHCL Seleqtions sets a brilliant example of what pet-friendly hospitality should look like.

    Taj President has Herb-House, a poolside pet-friendly bistro that offers a curated menu for pets, pet brunches, and hi-tea. It also has pet minders, a special menu for pets, and more – though in our short stay, we could not experience them all.

     

    The Pet-friendly Room Experience

    The superior room, though small—a characteristic of Mumbai’s space constraints—was perfect for a couple and a small pet (under 20 kg). The layout was functional, the bedding was plush, and the ambience was comfortable for humans and pets alike. For larger pets or more spacious settings, there were other rooms that one could check in. However, other Tata IHCL Seleqtions properties across the country promise even bigger and more open spaces. But given that we were in the heart of Mumbai, this size at President IHCL Seleqtion was more than satisfactory.

     

    Expanding Horizons for Pet Owners

    IHCL Seleqtions has paved the way for stress-free travel with pets, a much-needed respite for pet lovers across India. Their network of pet-friendly properties is growing, and with it, the hope is that travelling with your pets will no longer be an obstacle ( at least for accommodation) but a joy. If you’re a pet owner looking to explore without leaving your furry friend behind, Tata IHCL Seleqtions hotels are a fantastic option.

     

    NETNET

    In a country where pet-friendly accommodations are few and far between, IHCL Seleqtions is a breath of fresh air—a chain that accommodates and celebrates the bond between pet and owner. It covers many cities like Agra, Ajmer, Chikmagalur, Coonoor, Goa, Jaipur, Mumbai, New Delhi, Ooty, Pune and Varkala, and the list will only increase. These are for ‘Pawfect Pawcation’. There is an additional charge for the pet- but that is worth it.

    ITC Hotels (the ‘Petcaytions’ initiative) and Marriott International also have a few pet-friendly hotels. All Vivanta hotels and the bungalows under the homestay brand Ama Stays & Trails are pet-friendly.  These cater to a small high-end demand- but a bigger opportunity lies in the mid-range pet-friendly hotels.

     

    Add-on:  One thing that created dissonance was that the hotel did ask me to sign a liability statement covering any possible damage to property or otherwise- but did not insist on seeing the Pet Licence, Vaccination, Fit-to-travel Vet letter and Insurance papers. I know this would add to the pet parents’ workload- and the paper I signed most likely covered these areas. I know such small things can help in proper pet care and hotel property peace of mind. They may even ask it to be uploaded digitally or shown at a different time- but it should not be taken for granted.